Choice-Based Relationships
Relationships and Control
We’ve talked in the past about how control is an illusion – we can’t control the world around us, and all we really have are the choices we make.
We’ve also talked about how manipulating people only works when you’re the smartest person in the room.
One of the things that’s been a struggle for both of us, individually and as friends, is how do we make sure people will stick around? We all, at our core, don’t want to be alone. We want to be known, and appreciated, and maybe truly loved, but that…sure seems like a lot to ask. Most of us only manage to shoot for being a little bit known and sort of vaguely liked. And that’s actually pretty great, if it happens.